On The Bright Side, I May Be Moving to Oz
This morning found me crying on the treadmill. Yes, sadly, on a bright, sunshiney, couldn’t-ask-for-a-better-day spring morning in Crete, I was politely boohooing my way through my cardio while Rihanna blared raucously in the background. What?! Why?
Well, as many of you know, G and I are in the midst of making a huge decision about our future: to leave or not to leave? And as hard as it is on us, as much as it is breaking our hearts, we are inching closer each day to the realization that the answer to this question is Leave.
So where will we go? G is an Aussie battler (self-proclaimed), so as we consider and weigh options (Holland has been in the balance), the one that’s tipping the scales for us is a return to Melbourne. Probably in late summer/early fall, at least in the Northern Hemisphere.
And this is why I was bawling my eyes out at the gym. This and the fact that I was also listening to Miley Cyrus on my mp3 player, and between “The Climb” and “When I Look At You,” I was in a right state. (Go ahead and judge me if you want. I have no shame when it comes to my musical tastes. They are roughly the same as those of the high school students I teach.)
Leaving Greece breaks my heart in a million places; it guts me to think of pulling up stakes. At the same time, Greece has left G and I no alternative. Like that Mr./Ms. Right who is perfect for us except for that one major thing we need, Greece has let us fall in love with her only to show us that, in the end, she cannot give us what we need and want most.
Since my morning sobfest on the treadmill, I have worked today to turn my focus elsewhere – went for lunch with two girlfriends, sat in the sun for a bit with a book, completed the necessary tasks in my online classroom, watered the garden (and harvested five new vegetables!). Things began looking up. And in the midst of Operation Turn That Frown Upside Down, I also came up with the following list, my own little things to be happy about about moving to Australia (or Oz as it is affectionately known), if we do indeed go. Maybe this mightn’t be so bad after all … .
10 Reasons Why Moving to Oz Might Not Be a Bad Thing:
1. I will finally understand yoga class again. You may think that words aren’t necessary for yoga class. After all, mostly what you’re doing is sun salutations, downward dogs, and breathing in and out a lot. And you would be right, except I struggle even in the best of times in an English-speaking class to follow all the – asanas and what they are. Imagine me in Greek class: Oxi, Kyria. Den einai “downward dog.” Einai “tree pose.” (Translation: No, Miss. It isn’t “downward dog.” It’s “tree pose.”) I default to downward dog way too much. Half my class is me with my bum stuck in the air.
2. No Language Barrier = I’m Funny Again. Maybe. Maybe I am only funny in my head and have been fooling myself for far too long. Perhaps I am not ready for this kind of revelation … .
3. Christmas Barbecue! When the rest of the world is bundling up in the woolies, we will be shedding our clothes and inhibitions and grilling meat! In the heat! This may give White Christmas a whole new meaning. Maybe it will be “pink and burnt” Christmas instead.
4. A Year of Two Summers. Plus side = swimsuits, shorts, and flip-flops twice in one year. Down side = swimsuits, shorts, and flip-flops twice in one year. That’s a whole lot of maintenance. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about.
5. Hubby Will Have a Hobby. Wahoo! Poor G has had no time to pursue his passion on the football pitch (or the basketball court either) since he’s started teaching in Greece. But – yay me! – Australian teaching hours will equal time again for hubby to play team sport, which means two – count them, TWO! – big pluses for me:
- Me-time: What will I do with it, I wonder? It’s been so long since I’ve had it, I’m not sure I could pick me out in a crowd.
- Hot Body for G: Because, let’s face it, I married him for his looks. As he puts it, I’m his “Number One Fan.” (He claims his tongue got turned around that one time and what he was really trying to say is that he’s MY number one fan, but I’m not sure I’m buying it.)
6. Greek Insta-Family. G is part of a big, loving Greek family, which I guess means that since I’m his wife, I kind of am, too. What will that be like, I wonder? Will there be lamb on a spit in the yard when we arrive? I can’t wait to meet everyone. Really. I know I will love them.
7. Koala Bears. They’re cute, they’re cuddly (really? are they?), and they hang out all day in the trees, high from eucalyptus leaves. What more is there to say?
8. Showers where I don’t have to preheat the water. Not too many people know that in the winter time in Greece, you have to plan your shower way in advance, usually by a good hour or so, or you’ll wind up taking a cold shower. I’m sure G will be pleased that the arrival of winter will no longer also signal the arrival of Jungle Legs for his wife, who cannot shave in mere tepid water.
9. I can go to church again. One where I understand the words and what people are saying and doing. One major drawback: God may not recognize me. He may, in fact, faint from sheer shock when I arrive.
10. Backwards-Spinning Toilet Water. I know this will weird me out forever. I may become like Gizmo the Cat who keeps flushing the toilet all day long for kicks:
What about you?
Have you ever had to make a huge move to a new place, a new country?
How did you cope?
How did you try to look on the bright side?
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I believe you have a wonderful adventure in store for you. Your tears show how much you appreciate where you are and how much capacity you have to appreciate where you are going. And by the sounds of this list, there is a lot to appreciate. It will be a big move, there’s no doubt about that. A year of TWO summers would be enough for me
Ten years ago I moved across Canada from the east coast to the west coast. It was a choice I made as opposed to one that was forced on me. That makes a difference too, in how you may respond. I got caught up in the moment. Really caught up in it! Course, I like exploring. That thought reminds me of one of your recent posts where you were out hiking and following a path, expecting what would be at the end, only to be surprised.
My sense is that letting go of what you may expect at the other end of your journey will widen your path. The wider the path… the less restricted you are. If that makes any sense. Everything has a funny way of working out just the way it needs to.
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Davina, I know what you mean about the difference between decisions being forced on you and decisions we choose. Your description of your move to Canada’s West Coast reminds me of how I set off for Greece: a huge move but one I was TOTALLY psyched about. I couldn’t wait to do it! And even when it was hard, I still loved that I was doing it.
Thank you for pointing out to me some of the wisdom of my previous posts … and sharing your wisdom too. I am sure that, if we do indeed make this move, I will grieve the departure from Greece (as I should), but this will allow me to look forward to the next step in the journey. You are so wise to remind me that letting go of expectations may widen my path. Thank you for this.
Sorry that you are having to think of leaving your beloved Greece.
I think that Melbourne sounds a good place to be, though.
I really think that you will find that you will fit in very well in Australia.
I have never moved from one country to another, which probably makes me a bit boring!
That was a very intelligent cat. You could see the cogs working!
Hope there was no water meter involved!
Maggie X
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Maggie, I think there was a water meter involved!
If I recall correctly, the people who owned this cat were getting sky-high water bills and for the life of them could not figure out what was causing them. Then the man was home one day from work during the week and happened to catch the cat in action = everything explained!
Thank you for your thoughts and for stopping by today. And I can assure you, you are anything but boring.
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I guess leaving Greece is not bad after all. Your new place will eventually give you so much fun and great experiences just like the ones you have in Greece. Plus the fact that new adventures will be featured here in your blog is something worth looking forward to . Goodluck to your new adventures. Stay happy.
Hi, Mitchie. I will do my best to stay happy. We are still weighing this thing out: it’s not a done deal just yet. But whatever adventures we undertake will just contribute more to our joy and accumulated life experience … and, of course, you will hear about some of these adventures here.
This could be really exciting!! I love the list you’ve made… Good for you, looking for the positive!
Doing my best, lady.
I’m sure there’ll be some down days, too, if we do leave. But that’s a natural part of leaving: LOSS. Hope you’re still looking for the positive, too, in your new job.
Someone once said to me something along the lines of,
“Sometimes it’s time to stay, sometimes time to go, even if there is nowhere particular to go”.
You have somewhere to go which I always take that a new life is beckoning. It’s often a wrench to leave something behind or some of ourself with it but the new must take precedent over the old. After all morning always follow sunrise.
Follow your sunrise!
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You know, John, I hadn’t thought of it in that way, that a new life is beckoning. This puts a very different slant on things, and I like it!!! Thank you for sharing this today … and for the words “morning always follows sunrise.”
I so enjoy reading about your adventures and thoughts, and believe me, you are funny!
I’ve never made the huge sort of move you’re dealing with, but I’ve had lots of moves in terms of physical locations and life changes.
What’s worked best for it is to admit the things that make me sad about leaving a former spot first. It’s a bit like grieving where I have to go through the stages before I can really accept the possibilities of the new place on a deep level.
Then, I give myself time to settle in and not force anything at first. Just sort observe the behavior of the natives and get clear on what I want, where I’m feeling an empty spot, etc.:)
All in all, things have always worked out for the best, and I know they will for you too!
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Your words ring so true, Jean. The necessary (and healthy) grieving, then the settling in and letting oneself acclimate, then slowly but surely moving forward and out into the new place, the new life!
Thank you for your encouragement today and for sharing your own experiences. Hope you have a fabulous weekend.
As a woman who is .25 Australian and who love she country – I say… YAY! Let the adventure of your life unfold.

As a person who has lived abroad, both times having no where to live when I first arrived, I say Let the adventure begin!! I have entered each experience with the idea that it is not forever but for today and I can change it. It if doesn’t work, I can do something else. It worked in ways that I couldn’t imagine each time… and yet what kept me there was always the notion that I could change things if desired.
I love moving though so…
So much hope lies in your list. I love it!
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Hi, TE. Thank you for your lovely comment. It’s wonderful to hear from someone who’s done the “up and move,” even with nowhere to up and move to! That’s how my move to Greece was: knew no one, didn’t speak the language, had no job lined up, didn’t know where I’d live. But everything worked out. Like you, it was a bit of “Look, I’m going to do this thing and give it my best. And if I don’t like where I end up, I can move on.” Four years later, I am still here … and HAPPY!
Thank you for reminding me that this is an attitude G and I can take with us into the next portion of our lives … wherever that may be. We really don’t know yet for certain where we will end up. But “all things work together for good,” yes?
So very happy to see you again today. Hope you’re having a beautiful weekend. x
Carla — I start with my favorite line in this post, “And in the midst of Operation Turn That Frown Upside Down…” To me, this sums up your approach to life perfectly. Whatever you and G. decide, I know you will make the best of it…it’s just your nature:~)
I also loved that you made a list of the good things about moving to Australia. I do this often when faced with challenges — make lists of the positive. I find even in the most terrible circumstances, I can, at least, make myself laugh. Your list sounds like there are some very good opportunities for going to Australia.
Even so, I know it’s hard to leave.
I haven’t really lived in other countries. I spent a month in Switzerland and after the month, did not want to return, but it’s not the same. As a matter of fact, I’ve only lived in three places, all in the USA. Most of my time has been spent in Florida, where I grew up.
If you make the move, you will make the most of it. I have lots of faith in you:~)
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Dearest Sara, your comments always touch my heart because you seem to see me as the best self that I so desperately want to be …. but don’t know if I always succeed in being. Thank you for this: it is a gift that you give to me constantly.
Ah, my list. I hope everyone knows it’s meant to be a bit tongue-in-cheek. When G read it he was like, “This is why we’re thinking of moving to Australia?!” And I said, “No, honey, it’s meant to be lighthearted.” As you can see, the strain is taking its toll. Bless him, I think this is harder on him than it is on me. Really.
I can imagine that after your month in Switzerland it would be very hard to return to the US. It’s a place we’ve heard wonderful things about but have not yet been able to visit. Hopefully we will be able to … one day … sooner rather than later.
Thank you for stopping by today. Hope you enjoy a truly lovely Memorial Day weekend.
p.s. My mom’s from Florida!
Hi CG,
Australia should be fun. I once said I would rather split my time between north and south so I live in a place where it is always sunny. So good on you for having two summers this year
I grew up in very hot climate (Kuwait in the Middle East) and moved to Vancouver, BC Canada 15 years ago (where it rains a lot). It was very difficult and emotional. But like everything else, things are scarier in our imagination than in real life.
The most difficult part is making the decision and moving. Once you’re there, things tend to get easier and the emotional attachment takes a backseat to daily living and adjusting.
You will always miss being in a certain place or with certain people. I believe we leave part of us wherever we go. The other side is you get to have new experiences and grow so you share more of yourself.
I think your approach of looking at the positives will empower you to make the right decision. And if you don’t you can always go back.
All the best!
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Thank you, Manal. I appreciate your words, especially as you have made a large move in your life, as well, and can relate to some of the pain both of making the decision and then executing it. The part of your comment that stood out the most for me was “things are scarier in our imagination than in real life.” This couldn’t be more true. And you are so right to remind us that the most difficult part is making the decision to move and then moving; the “after” part, actually being in our new place, will more than take care of itself as we carry on the business of life and moving in and adjusting to the new people and experiences around us.
I think moving, especially big moves, open us up. you said that we “share more” of ourselves, and I think this is true. We are stretched, challenged, and opened. I would prefer this over remaining tight in the bud, as Anais Nin would say.
It was good to see you again today. Thank you for your wise counsel.
Yia sou Carla!
I hate to see you leave Crete. I was living vicariously through your writings. Now who am I going to visit in Creti?
I have some Greek friends who’s are from Australia. If you do move to Oz and run into any Bakalakis’s – that’s them!
Anyway, I loved this post – einai pouli funny! Don’t you love Gringlish? All my relatives from Greece speak it. I can only imagine trying to follow along in yoga class.
Good luck making the big decision.
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Yia sou, Angela! Ksero!!! Pou tha meneis otan tha ertheis stin Kriti? Alla … ti na kanoume? I love that I can type this to you and you can understand it. I just hope it’s not riddled with errors!
Thank you for your thoughts and encouragement. G is from Oz and has a big, loving Greek family all living in Melbourne. Heck, they may even know the Bakalakis! Then again, maybe not. There are more Greeks in Melbourne than in Thessaloniki!
So glad you enjoyed the post.
Ok, there are Koalas, but mostly in the zoo, they don’t just hang about in your backyard. You’ll need to go into the bush to find koalas in the wild.
There are yoga places everywhere in Melbourne and plenty of Greek families. In fact, Melbourne has the second highest Greek population of any other city, after Greece. Or so I’ve heard – I haven’t personally counted them…
I moved to Australia when I was 13. We emigrated from Poland. Even though I was incredibly excited, the reality bit hard when culture shock set in. However, I moved from a vastly different country and did not speak the language well. You’ve already got the language and the culture is similar to what you know. Btw, I’ve been back to Poland, and travelled around Europe, and was vastly relieved to come back back home to Melbourne. It is clean and bright….
But I have to warn you about Melbourne weather! Speak to G. about it – he’ll know! Winters can be wet, windy and miserable. And some days you really do get “four seasons in one day”.
Do what feels right…. Good luck!
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Hi, Dorothy. You are too right about the number of Greeks in Melbourne: Melbourne has a larger population of Greeks than Thessaloniki, making it second in the world behind Athens! Perhaps I will still get to practice my Greek after all, most definitely with G’s family.
Ah, the Melbourne weather. Between G and some other Greek-Australian friends we have, I have been hearing about the “cool changes” for years. And as we’re Crowded House fans, we are aware of the “four seasons in one day” too. It sounds nuts!
Thank you for sharing your experiences about what it was like for you to move from Poland to Australia. I can imagine that it must have been a tremendous culture shock. But the things you shared that you love, that it is clean and bright, are something that I would look forward to. I’m so happy you stopped by today and hope to see you again. Have a fabulous weekend!
I love the list!! I think it’s such an exciting adventure you are leaning towards here. I have lived within a few hundred miles of my birthplace my entire life so I am going to vicariously travel along with ya! Can’t wait for the koalas.
Hahahaha, CC. G has told me that the kangaroos are scary, that they’re bigger than you think, and look at you in a way that’s a bit unnerving … so I’m leaning towards to the koalas myself!
Still making our decision but whatever adventure we choose (whether it’s to stay on here, head to Oz, or to check out another country), you’ll definitely be reading about here. I hope you’re enjoying a fantastic Memorial Day weekend. x
Carla,
I’m reminded of when I was first married – and in the first five years, I think we lived in six different places. Some of the moments were challenging ones, and yet – they also all helped both shape who we are today and grow in our own view of the world. I look back now and am thankful for this happening – even when it was hard to do.
Know that I’m thinking of you….and knowing that you will find much to love in this adventure that lies in front of you….
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Thank you, Lance. Your words and friendship always brighten my day. Slowly slowly we are reaching a decision. It’s hard, but we will get there I’m sure. I think you’re right about these challenging moments shaping us, individually and as a unit, helping us to grow. We certainly have learned how to lean on each other.
By the way, I have not said so, but I LOVE the new blog, The Feel Good Jungle! Rock on, Lance! You’re my hero! xx
Wow. My life goal is to move to Greece later in life…and you are contemplating leaving..fluid energy! Plus, I listen to “The Climb” and it tugs at my heart each time…if I’m in a good stage I tear up because I’m grateful to have enjoyed the climb; if I’m in the midst of change, I may feel overwhelmed…
You have an amazing top ten list, and a great sense of humor about it all! You will find the joy and beauty with your husband and the external around you regardless of what country you live in…I’m excited to read about it…..bet you will inspire us all:)
I’ve moved from upstate NY to Savannah, Ga to attend college; I then moved from Savannah, GA to So Ca….both moves involved huge transition–lots of culture shock, knowing myself well enough to celebrate the good and release the worry….There were times of doubt, but shoot I went from snow to ocean; to ocean and hills; and now I live on my boat so each move brought me closer to where I wanted to be, although while I was in *it* I couldn’t have known where I’d want to be, let alone be happy for it then.
I think life is an amazing adventure, so celebrate your top ten list, appreciate your moments in Greece…and begin buying the latest and greatest in swimsuits, flip flops and shorts……*grin*
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Oh, I loved your comment, Joy! Especially the giggle you gave me with the last bit of advice: don’t they call flip-flops “thongs”? Don’t know if I could ever get used to that!;)
I’m so glad you stopped by again and shared some of your own experiences. You know what it’s like to leave a place and begin all over again somewhere else = it ain’t easy! But, as you said, each move brought you closer to where you want to be, and that’s really what it’s all about isn’t it?
G and I still haven’t made the final decision on this one. I’ve given us a three-day “holiday” in which neither one of us is allowed to dwell on it and fret about it. We’re putting this away for a few days … hopefully to revisit it with fresh eyes.
I’m delighted to have found your place, too, and am looking forward to lots of catch-ups. One of the best things I like about blogging is meeting people like you.
Chaniagirl to Melbournegirl! I’ve always wanted to visit Australia!!!
You will always be welcome, wherever we are.
Melbourne is beautiful, Australia is beautiful, and wonderful, and wild, and amazing, and full of fantastic people. If you end up moving here, email me and I’ll send you a list of places to visit in Melbourne including my all time favourite coffee shop and restaurant. Oh, and yes we call “flip-flops” “thongs”, and a few other things have different names as well, so I can send you that list too…


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Thank you so much, Claire, for your generous offer. That would be wonderful!
My husband is from Melbourne, as are some close friends of ours, so we know some very good things about the city. It will be quite an adjustment from our serene life in Greece, but we are hoping we can take the simplicity we’ve come to love with us. It will be even easier knowing there are good people like you (and G’s family) there to help ease the transition!