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The Big Break-Up

June 21st, 2010 Posted in Contemplations, Inner Wisdom

He did not arrive at this conclusion by the decent process of quiet, logical deduction, nor yet by the blinding flash of glorious intuition, but by the shoddy, untidy process halfway between the two by which one usually gets to know things. ~Margery Allingham

Once upon a time, Intuition had a partner.  She filled her days in his company, and together they made magic.

Everywhere they went, people commented on them and what a remarkable couple they were.  They became the most popular guests at dinner parties, the most sought after for society events.  Their social calendar was full.  And why not?  Everyone wanted to be paid a visit.  Everyone wanted to be where They were.  Everyone, deep down, just wanted to be them – that’s how glamorous they were.

But then one day, Intuition and her partner had a falling out.  Over what, no one is quite sure.  But it seems Intuition wanted to do things one way and her partner, another.  And for the first time, their often-reconcilable disagreements did not end in a compromise.  Neither one would give and inch and, just like that, the fabric of their relationship was torn.

Intuition decided to go it alone and so, therefore, did her partner.  Being the more vibrant of the two, Intuition, of course, got the lion’s share of the sympathy and remained a favorite at many of the dinner parties and weekend soirees they two used to frequent together.

Her partner, Reason, however, did not fare so well and was slowly sidelined into only brief appearances at occasional luncheons, talks, and teas.  Only rarely now did any of their old friends contact him, and when they did it was usually on the sly, secretly, when no one was looking … lest any of Intuition’s friends find out and fill her in.

Time wore on as it does in situations like these.  Days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months, months turned into years, and before long hardly anyone could remember anymore a time when Reason and Intuition had been partners or – more than this – lovers of the highest order.

Friends of either one knew only the “now.”  And since, to their minds, their friends’ permanent state of spinster- (or bachelorhood, as the case may be) had always been the given state of things, they could have no way of knowing the playful, boyish side of Reason that Intuition had once never failed to bring out in him.  Nor could they understand the focused, confident face Intuition used to present to the world when, reassured and calmed by Reason’s steadying hand at her elbow (or in the small of her back), they entered a room together.

However, in a few (very few) hidden places around the world, there are still some people who know and remember a time when Reason and Intuition were one.  These are their oldest friends, the ones who couldn’t believe the split when it happened.  And as they’ve watched the two try to go it alone, they’ve secretly hoped for and awaited the day when it will finally occur to them again – Intuition and Reason – that they are not fully themselves without the other.  These friends know that Reason and Intuition’s place is right by each other’s side.

What about you?

Do you believe that Intuition and Reason can be reconciled?

Or are their differences irreconcilable?

Your comments are welcome, as always.

We know the truth, not only by the reason, but also by the heart.
~Blaise Pascal

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16 Responses to “The Big Break-Up”

  1. This post really got me thinking about how I use both intuition and reason in my life and how I do or don’t use them at the same time. I definitely think they can co-exist and that each needs to be given a voice. Upon reflection, I realized I tend to give intuition the first voice, then listen to reason, and then give intuition one more chance to speak after hearing the ‘facts/logic.’ It’s actually working out pretty well :)
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  2. Reason and Intuition their emotions they let sway
    The twines Mistrust and Mislead helped
    For in it, a hand they played
    Reason couldn’t believe Intuition
    So he’d make her payee
    Intuition felt Reason wrong
    But how she could not say
    Difference, he’s the one that split them up
    And Confusion helped him win each day
    Reason and Intuition will never again be one
    For others, in their lives did play
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    • Which came first the chicken or the egg
      One makes the other, the other makes one
      In a circle they will go round and round
      Like the Chinese dragons that chase the sun
      Reason and Intuition there never together
      And their never not one
      So you’re asking me what I think
      I think your blog is a lot of fun

  3. Maggie May says:

    I use both reason and intuition but Intuition often seems to persuade me the way I should go.
    Maggie X

    Nuts in May

  4. Awesome post..awesome comments..amazing energy in it all..
    i lead with my heart so for me as a Being intuition is always invited to the party..however reason is necessary for existing on Earth..seems society as a whole prefers reason so I’ve become familiar with reason and allow him to play with his friend intuition. Honestly though even if reason is around…intuition is highly favored in my life….follow my heart each and every time, maybe even especially when it doesn’t make sense:)
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  5. @Jean: I’m glad the post was brain-food today, Jean. That’s what I wanted it to be. It seems that when it comes to reason and intuition, most of us (me included) like to harken to one camp more than the other. What if we managed a bit of both? It sounds like you’ve a way of being with both reason and intuition does that. Thank you for your words.

    @Desk49: Am I wrong, Ellis? Do you see their differences as irreconcilable? ;)

    @Maggie: Intuition is definitely a persuasive creature, isn’t she? Especially when she gets into your gut and makes your body start feeling things … :)

    @Joy: I’m so glad you stopped by today, Joy. Your relationship with both intuition and reason was one I think many in our blogosphere have. Intuition is a good friend to many of us. But, a fan of the underdog, I thought Reason could stand a bit of a pump up too; I think he gets short shrift these days. :)

  6. such beautiful poetic writing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    For a very long time I believed they could not be united over the last couple of years I gained a vision of their union – some of my favorite inspiration comes when it’s in alignment with both Reason & Intuition – it’s not yet often enough but I have seen glimpses enough to believe.
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  7. I have to admit that reason had the upper hand in my life for many, many years. And you know what? He let me astray many a time, and I have had to move him out of my life, allowing only the occasional visit.

    On the other hand, intuition and I are close friends. She has forgiven me for banishing her from my life for so long and the trust is beginning to build between us again.

    Reason will never be forgotten and I’m sure there are many who still hold him in the highest regard, however it is intuition who remains permanently on my party list.

    Such a thought provoking post, CG. Thank you. :)

  8. Carla,
    A very thought provoking post!
    Your absolutely must include Reason – to a point that is.

    Intuition is our own inner wisdom speaking to us. It comes to us without the use of words, or thoughts. It completely bypasses the process of rational thinking which is why – if you’re really attuned to your intuition – your receive truly inspired answers and guidance that are absolute truth for you.

    When you listen to Reason, or the intellect which is under the supervision of the EGO you may not always get the Truth. You’ll get what’s best for the ego. The Ego is known to be a trickster and a manipulator.

    After tuning in to your intuition you need to check with reason – and then check with intuition again. If the two are in agreement and feel right – proceed. If there’s a disparity between the two you need to examine REASON to look for conflicting core beliefs that oppose what Intuition is advising. You also need to sniff out Fear! Fear is usually the Egos doing which is why the advice solely from Reason fails.

    Okay, not to go on and on about this – which you know I can. I hope added something useful to the conversation here.
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  10. Lovely tragic story. But I think they can be reconciled. One is not boring and the other lively. They are both lively and vibrant if applied to what matters most to you. Making reasonable and intuitive choices can lead to a wonderful love affair with life. Great post, Carla.
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  11. Reason needs to put his pride aside and be guided by intuition. All things are interconnected and co-exist. Reason works fine with personal responsibility and common sense. Triple date with patience and reasoning is intuitions voice.

    Cool concept for a post. Peace, Simon.

  12. @Aileen: “… some of my favorite inspiration comes when it’s in alignment with both Reason & Intuition.” Mine, too, Aileen. I’m still learning how to bring these two together in my world.

    @Joanne: Hi, Joanne. So glad you enjoyed this post. It seems to have struck a chord with quite a few of you lovely readers, and that’s a good thing. Thank you for sharing how you’ve experienced and lived with the two in your own life.

    @Angela: Hello, Angela love. Thank you for ALL that you contributed to the conversation here. So many good points. One that stood out for me was this:

    When you listen to Reason, or the intellect which is under the supervision of the EGO you may not always get the Truth. You’ll get what’s best for the ego. The Ego is known to be a trickster and a manipulator.

    I agree with this, just as I also believe that as we move toward healthy concepts of self and whole mind-body wellness we can move away from ego-centered intellect into an intellect that is not fear-based but love-based. When that happens, then I think Reason IS a formidable counterpart to Intuition. What magic! What power!

    @Katie: Thanks so much for chiming in here, Katie. I agree with you: neither one has to be the boring one and the other the vibrant one. They are both energetic and lively when applied to the living of one’s life. Very aptly said. :)

    @Simon: Hi, Simon! I like how you added patience into the mix. Brilliant!

  13. Carla, your posts are becoming more and more inspired and powerful all the time.

    To me it’s intuition all the way as reason is like a voice saying can’t, don’t, shouldn’t or being the logical Mr Spock of Star Trek. Intution is an infallable resource as it stirs truth where thinking can’t go and communicate in ways words and reason never could. More importantly, when I look back on life it’s the times when I didn’t trust intuition and listened to reason that caused me to veer of course and lose my way. Not any more!
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  14. Very well done. I think that intuition and reason have secret affairs and would love to get back together yet believe that they won’t be accepted as a couple again by their friends.
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  15. @John: Hi, John. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. One of the kicks about writing this post has been watching which camps people fall into. It doesn’t surprise that most are stoutly in Intuition’s. It seems Reason has burned a lot of people, me included. I still think they can work together, though.

    @Mark: Oh, I love it, Mark! Secret affairs, secretly longing. You totally got the spirit of this post! Thank you. :)