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When Enough is Enough

May 3rd, 2010 Posted in Contemplations, Inner Wisdom, Life in Greece

Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little.
~Epicurus

As many of you know, things have recently gotten pretty bad for Greece. The country has debts it can’t pay off, is operating at a loss … and is now contemplating a bailout that will have it paying upwards of 15% interest for God knows how many years. To say things are bad is an understatement. Things are scary as he**. People feel like they’ve wandered into someone else’s nightmare.

Friends of mine are worried. “Austerity measures” are being taken: their pay is being decreased by 7%, they’re losing their Christmas and Easter bonuses, their pensions are being frozen, and there’s probably more bad news to come.

For many people who were already just barely making ends meet (a lot of people), this may be the proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back: “Where is the money going to come from to pay our bills this summer? How are we going to pay for our kids’ schooling?” These are just a few of the questions being asked as tensions run high. And, as you can probably imagine, it is almost impossible for G and I not to be affected by it, too.

Over the past month, we too have found ourselves taking a close look at our life and our finances and asking ourselves, “How will we purchase the furniture that’s still needed for the living room? Or the car that we desperately need to buy this year? And what about just being able to put some money by each month: the emergency fund we may need, the little bit extra for a rainy day?” We ask ourselves these questions and begin panicking because we don’t have the answers. We get depressed and then “don’t want to talk about it.” We both spend several sleepless nights worrying about a future that hasn’t even happened yet.

It was during one of these mutual worry sessions the other day that my Inner Voice finally took advantage of a lull in our conversation to jump in with a few words of her own.

“Hey, hey, hey,” she said. “Hold it for a minute. You’ve got enough, don’t you?”

G and I, caught by surprise and definitely a little puzzled, “Huh?”

“You have enough,” she repeated … and then began to lead us through the situation, one question at a time.

“Did you have enough to pay your rent this month,” she asked. Yes.
“Did you have enough to pay your electricity?” Yes.
“Your water?” Yes.
“Your phone and internet?” Yes.
“Did you have enough to buy your groceries every day?” Yes.
“What about the gas in G’s bike?” Yes.
“The personal toiletries you need?” Yes.
“Have you gone without?” No.
“So every need you have has been met?” Yes.

“I rest my case, then,” she said, “You have enough.” And she paused for a moment to let the truth sink in.

She was right. G and I had nothing we could say that would refute her for, like a wise parent, she had soundly shown us the Universe’s provision. For us to complain of our plight, to insist on more than what we’ve received, this would have been the height of greed, selfishness, thanklessness, and conceit — two greedy kids handed their more than ample weekly allowance having the gall to still beg for more and complain if it wasn’t given. We, G and I, knew it was time to stop. Enough was enough.

Since this conversation, we have occasionally been tempted to come back with a, “Yes, but what if … ?” To which a reply is always given before we can even finish the question: “Well, if that happens, we’ll take care of it then.”

And once again G and I are silenced and reminded to be present in our present. A present which, we have been assured, is more than abundant. Enough is more than enough.

What about you?
How have you been affected by the recent financial crises?
What have you yourself learned about wealth and prosperity?
Have your views changed about what is enough?
Do you have enough?
I welcome and look forward to your comments.

Abundant blessings to you today,

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Your Own Private (Pity) Party

April 23rd, 2010 Posted in Everyday Life, Inner Wisdom, On a Lighter Note


“Listen, I don’t know how to break this to you. But … your blog sucks.” These were the words I heard this week when I put forth my blog for some honest criticism. And they were not much different from some earlier ones I’d heard a few days before in my online classroom: “Prof. C is the worst teacher ever! I hate this class!”

“Oh, what’s the use,” I thought to myself and proceeded to sulk through the private entrance into my very own deluxe pity party, replete with an orchestra of the world’s tiniest, whiniest violins whinging in the corner.

“Why do I even bother,” I questioned myself as I poured myself a glass of Defeat and helped myself to a plate of Injured Pride. “Why knock myself out when this is the kind of thanks I get?” And off I wandered, over to another corner of the room from whence I could enjoy my beggar’s meal in silence.

Please notice that in the above scenario, the first words I shared with you were words I said I had “heard.” This is crucial for you to understand because, the fact is, these were not actually the words that were spoken to me.

The words actually spoken to me were words that went along the lines of “I’m sure your blog is nice but I simply can’t read it for the dark background and all the colors everywhere” and “This course was far too challenging for ten weeks. Please lengthen it,” respectively.

You should also know that these words also came sandwiched in the middle of a lot of praise: “I love this post!” “I really enjoy your blog!” “This is the best online class I’ve taken with this university!” “Prof. C is the best thing about this course!”

But what did I do right away? I did what a lot of us do and immediately honed in on the negative, grabbed it like a rabid dog with a bone and, for a good couple of days, have refused to let go … even if there was no meat on it to begin with.

Sadly, while I let myself suffer through a night of CG’s Worst Hits, sucking on bones at Casa Feel Sorry for Myself, I missed out on an altogether different kind of party just next door. A party that was rocking. A party with all kinds of cool folks. A party with much more sustaining food than the crow I was forcing down. And the craziest thing of all about it? That party was thrown in my honor.

Don’t we all do this from time to time? We hear things that are not said.

Perhaps we blow them out of proportion. Or we simply refuse to acknowledge all of the powerful, wonderful, positive things that are practically being shouted at us. … And we suffer for it. A self-imposed suffering, which is the worst kind really, because we have no one to blame for the lashes on our backs but ourselves … and we’ve refused the soothing balm of praise and goodwill so happily being extended to us. Ah, what fools we can be!

I am presenting this story to you today because I am willing to gladly offer myself up as a cautionary tale.

Today when you are faced with doubt or criticism from others, don’t do like I did and immediately skulk off to your own private pity party. Instead, keep these things in perspective. Acknowledge to yourself (and even to others) the things you are doing right, and then go next door to the party that is You. It’ll be a lot of fun! Just the thing to cheer you up!

I hope this post encouraged you today. Please feel free to leave any comments you have on the post.

Have you hosted your own pity party before?
Do you sometimes find it difficult to focus on the positive rather than the negative?

***You are also welcome to post any comments or suggestions about the blog. I am actively considering some BIG changes in the near future to a white background and a different layout. If there are certain things you like about the blog that you want to see remain, please let me know. I also welcome any suggestions you have for future changes.***

Thank you, dear readers, and Happy Friday!

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